Divorce Mediation Example – Why Mediate A Divorce?
Divorce mediation allows those divorcing to decide how their story will unfold.
Unlike the stories of a typical litigated divorce, those who choose to mediate do not leave a divorce mediation session lamenting that they “lost everything”, or having received an order to do something he or she disagrees with. Nor will the process drag on for months, much less years.
Divorce mediation means targeted purposeful resolution services that are designed to efficiently and effectively resolve the terms of a divorce and, when children are involved, the parenting plan or custody agreement.
Mediation’s focus is on efficient and effective resolution where parties create a plan that works for them. No one is asked or forced into an agreement. Mediators focus on areas of agreement and build on them. Parties are assisted in moving from their emotional positions and arguments to their shared interests and agreements promoting resolution.
Divorce does not have to be a tragedy. Couples do not have to “fight it out”.
In divorce mediation the couple divorcing meet with the mediator together to determine how they wish to “settle” the terms. The mediator is a neutral person who assists them reach a resolution. The mediator does not judge, determine merit, or favor one side over the other.
Some important aspects of mediation:
Divorce mediation allows those divorcing to decide how their story will unfold.
Unlike the stories of a typical litigated divorce, those who choose to mediate do not leave a divorce mediation session lamenting that they “lost everything”, or having received an order to do something he or she disagrees with. Nor will the process drag on for months, much less years.
Divorce mediation means targeted purposeful resolution services that are designed to efficiently and effectively resolve the terms of a divorce and, when children are involved, the parenting plan or custody agreement.
Mediation’s focus is on efficient and effective resolution where parties create a plan that works for them. No one is asked or forced into an agreement. Mediators focus on areas of agreement and build on them. Parties are assisted in moving from their emotional positions and arguments to their shared interests and agreements promoting resolution.
Divorce does not have to be a tragedy. Couples do not have to “fight it out”.
In divorce mediation the couple divorcing meet with the mediator together to determine how they wish to “settle” the terms. The mediator is a neutral person who assists them reach a resolution. The mediator does not judge, determine merit, or favor one side over the other.
Some important aspects of mediation:
- Mediation is voluntary. Those who participate must choose to participate. As a result mediation can be ended, by either party, at any time.
- The parties agree to the resolution of the dispute. No one comes out of mediation with an order to do something they have not agreed to.
- All agreements reached in mediation are voluntary. Since the agreements are reached with the full cooperation and involvement of the parties, adherence is greater than judgments rendered through the litigation divorce.
- An effective mediator facilitates communication. Often those who come to mediation are absolutely unable to discuss anything related to the divorce or relationship calmly. The presence of a trained neutral third party tends to mitigate the communication difficulties, and an effective mediator actively guides the parties towards a cooperative solution.
- Mediation is cost effective. A mediated divorce tends to be less expensive than a litigated divorce. A litigated divorce can easily cost a typical couple $15,000 to $25,000. Whereas a mediated divorce is typically resolved in 7 hours or less of mediation and result in a total cost of less than $2500 for a couple with children.